My Korean ex called me this afternoon.  We hadn't spoken since around Xmas time.  She hasn't answered the few calls I have made or returned my emails.  The calls were made more out of habit that a real desire to talk to her I realized, cause I wasn't so happy to see her calling.  I forgot I texted her the other day asking her to call.  She said that was the reason for her call.  I asked what she has been doing lately.  Meaning more like- why haven't you spoken to me in over a month?  She said shes been busy and she doesn't really know the answers to the Korean languge questions I emailed her over a week ago.  I said I don't even remember what I asked.  She told me she met someone, so she cant talk to me at night anymore.  As if we had been talking at night at all since like Dec.  I didn't really care.  I was tired and I realized that I didn't really want to be talking to her at all.  Also I felt like she was calling out of obligation, and she didn't really want to talk to me either.  I don't care about her.  That's not exactly true, I just don't really need to be talking to her.  I don't need to be feeling bad about things not working out with her.  I can get over her if I don't have contact with her.  I don't really want to talk to her till my life has changed.  Or I would prefer to talk through email.  But she prefers to call.  Right now I mainly just want her to answer my Korean language questions I email her.  That's all I really want from her now.  If she can use me as some one to talk to when she is depressed even though I still want a relationship, then I should be able to use her to answer all of my Korean language questions.